157: Ask the Everygirl: Am I the Asshole If I No Longer Want to Be Friends With My Best Friend?
"I know a close friend who I have known for years that I feel is growing at a different pace than me, and I think we might be growing apart but I’m unsure of where to go from here. She is extremely unhappy and complains and vents to me 24/7 but seems to be doing little to change or deal with the things making her unhappy. She doesn’t take my advice and gets defensive if I point out where she may be wrong or try to set any boundaries. I’m burnt out around her but I’m afraid to lose my closest friend and sever many ties. I’m trying really hard to be a good friend and be there for her, but it is constant and I am drained. Am I the asshole??"
Josie shares how to know when it's time to break up with a friend, the difference between when to be supportive and when to step away, and why we shouldn't give our friends advice. How do you know when it's time for a friendship breakup? This episode gives you everything you need to know.
KEY MOMENTS:
00:30 — Introducing The Ask The Everygirl
01:40 — Friendship Breakups Are Worse Than Romantic Breakups
02:39 — Two Possible Outcomes
03:48 — We Have to Let People We Love Be Human
04:26 — Does She Still Care About Your Life?
05:38 — You Can Tell a Good Friend By How They Act When You’re Winning
06:49 — Tips To Get Her to Be Less Negative & Keep Her as a Friend
11:25 — How to Know It’s Time to Let Go of The Friendship
13:32 — Friendships Are Like Piggy Banks
14:05 — Love Should Not Be Unconditional
15:30 — Every Good Friendship Has a Compelling “About”
16:18 — This Friend is Wasting Precious Real Estate
17:05 — The Biggest Lesson We Learn in Our 20s
17:56 — PSA For Friends Everywhere
19:15 — Final Thoughts and Wrap Up
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