130: Free Couples Therapy: How to Keep the Spark Alive, with Dené Logan
Do you believe it's not possible to keep the spark alive for decades or that there's always an end to the honeymoon phase? Do you not feel heard, or feel like your partner doesn't plan enough date nights? Are you exhausted always feeling in charge of the household? Dené Logan, MFT, is a sought-after relationship psychologist and author of "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships." Today's conversation is a deep dive into the relationship dynamics that pull us into "roommate mode," resentment, or get us out of the honeymoon phase. Dené believes that it's not only possible to keep the spark alive for decades, but that we deserve to be in a passionate and fulfilling relationship. And today, she's teaching a master class on how to achieve that. Josie and Dené chat about the cultural and historical beliefs impacting our relationships, how to heal yourself to heal your relationship, and why most relationship problems come down to wounded feminine or masculine energies (regardless of gender).
SHOW NOTES:
01:13 — Ask The Everygirl: Are Butterflies Necessary in Relationships?
24:49 — Keeping the Spark Alive in Long-Term Relationships
33:23 — Cultural Influences on Modern Relationships
37:56 — The Emotional Entitlement of Men
38:20 — Patriarchal Culture and Economic Independence
38:45 — Cultivating Inner Meaning
39:16 — Subconscious Patriarchal Dynamics
44:31 — Outsourcing Power in Relationships
46:12 — Healthy Masculine and Feminine Traits
53:48 — Identifying Core Energetics
55:25 — Codependency and Attachment Styles
01:09:38 — Holding Love Like Water
01:10:53 — Rapid Fire Questions
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