Episode 69: Why Sexuality is a Superpower and How to Have Better Sex in a LTR with Candice Horbacz (Eva Lovia)
Candice Horbacz (most commonly known as Eva Lovia) is one of the most successful adult entertainment stars of all time. She is also a wife, mother, successful wellness entrepreneur, and host of the podcast Chatting with Candice. On today's episode, Candice shares her experience working in the adult film industry and why working in porn helped her love her body and get over crippling insecurities. She explains how she dealt with being judged by friends and family and why she considers sexuality her superpower. Candice also shares great tips for increasing pleasure and spicing up your sex life (especially in an LTR), and answers audience questions about jealousy and open relationships. This episode is a juicy must-listen.
SHOW NOTES:
On this week’s Ask The Everygirl segment, Emma and Josie address a situational listener question about a complex living situation and relationship. The two also discuss their favorite moments and insights from Candice’s interview, including her thoughts on open relationships and sexual empowerment. At the beginning of the interview with Candice, Josie asks her how she first got into the porn industry, and what that was like for her at the beginning of her career. Candice explains the lack of confidence she felt as a child, and how she looked to women who were sexually empowered to show her how to claim her own sensuality and self-esteem. She also discusses the various different types of camming and modeling that she tried before deciding to go into porn herself, and what it was like to finally claim her sexuality after years of feeling insecure about her body. Then, the conversation turns to the porn industry itself, and the common misconception that porn is always damaging or always negative for women and women’s self-esteem. Candice explains what it was like to see real bodies portrayed in porn rather than the highly edited sex scenes that are often produced in Hollywood. Josie asks Candice how her friends and family responded to her entering the porn industry, and Candice reveals what it was like to lose people close to her when she first started working in porn. She explains how she deals with situations where people are making unfair assumptions about her because of her work. From there, Josie and Candice dive into how many misconceptions about sexually empowered people stem from jealousy. Candice explains how the decision to become empowered in your own sexuality can be challenging, but that it is a step worth taking, and will eliminate some of the judgment that exists in our society around sex. Josie asks Candice how women can work on becoming more comfortable with their own sexualities, and Candice provides several meditation-based strategies for connecting with your sensuality. The two also get into a conversation about performance versus pleasure in the bedroom, and how to balance the two in a long-term relationship. Candice gives tips for upping libido, keeping things spicy with a long-term partner, and even making your space as sexy as possible. The two talk about scheduling sex and the misconceptions about what is actually a very healthy practice. Finally, Josie and Candice delve into the audience Q&A, which includes questions about jealousy, open relationships, and more.
Must-Listen Moments:
[0:33] Ask The Everygirl: What should I do if my boyfriend lives with three female roommates and I’m worried about him cheating?
[16:10] How did Candice first get into the porn industry, and why did she feel drawn towards a career that required feeling empowered in her sexuality?
[31:11] Candice reveals strategies for becoming more sexually empowered and feeling more confident in your sensual self
[41:22] A former porn star’s top tip for keeping things spicy in a long-term relationship, plus her thoughts on scheduling sex
[46:22] Audience Q&A for Candice, including whether or not she has dealt with jealousy in her career and how to handle an open relationship
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