Episode 79: How to Catch Lucky Girl Syndrome and Enter Your Villain Era with Payton Sartain
Payton Sartain is an influencer, podcaster, and social media star who has garnered a cult following thanks to her "big sister" advice. In this episode, you're hearing Payton like you've never heard her before. She shares how moving around often as a child affected her, where her confidence comes from, how she healed after a bad breakup, and why authenticity is her superpower. Josie and Payton also discuss main character's energy, lucky girl syndrome, and entering your villain era to help Everygirls change their mindset, get rid of limiting beliefs, and rebrand "selfish" as a good thing. Get delulu with us (it's OK to be just a little delusional...!) and enjoy this conversation that will inspire you to love your life more.
SHOW NOTES:
Before diving into the Ask The Everygirl this week, Josie and Emma briefly chat about Taylor Swift’s interview for her TIME Person of the Year profile. They discuss their favorite quotes from the interview, how Taylor has impacted their lives this year, and what they think Taylor Swift orders on DoorDash on her days off. Then, they dive into the Ask The Everygirl question of the week, which is about how to change your relationship with your phone and reduce your screen time. Josie shares the reasons why she never gets any notifications from any app, and Emma explains why she deletes social media from her phone during the week. The interview with Payton Sartain begins with Josie and Payton chatting about Payton’s career, and how Payton transitioned from being a political science major into being a full-time influencer. She explains why moving around a lot as a child allowed her to become easily adaptable, and how that skill translated to big life changes in her early twenties. Josie asks Payton how she’s managed to sustain an audience over the years, and Payton explains why she thinks that slow growth is crucial for gaining a loyal following on the internet. She explains why she chooses to show the lows and more negative sides of her twenties in her content, as a way of being completely honest with her followers. Josie and Payton talk about the importance of prioritizing authenticity and staying in your lane online, and why so many digital tastemakers fall into the trap of trying to be constantly relatable to their audiences. The two chat about toxic productivity and how to remove yourself from your phone and computer at the end of the workday. Then, Josie and Payton have a conversation about the transition between your 20s and your 30s. Payton, who is about to turn 30 at the end of the month, explains why she’s been sharing so much about the transition on her podcast and social media. She discusses the sense of internal stability and not caring what other people think that comes as you approach age 30, and all of the mixed emotions that she’s been feeling. She also gives some tips for gaining confidence throughout your twenties in order to reach that level of internal stability and confidence. Then, Josie and Payton dive into the “lucky girl mindset,” which Payton has discussed heavily on her platforms. They chat about why the reframe toward positivity can be so life-changing for people, plus how to lean into the “delusion” of lucky girl syndrome. Payton explains the tie between this mindset reframe and her own struggles with mental health, plus sharing the concrete steps she’s taken to achieve a more abundant mindset. Josie asks Payton to dive into the idea of the “villain era,” which Payton explains is simply the idea that we are all capable of stepping into our most powerful and capable selves whenever we want to do so. She explains the mindset as being “rightfully selfish,” and how to balance the feeling of being villainous with actual kindness. The episode closes with some rapid-fire questions for Payton.
Must-Listen Moments:
[8:09] Ask The Everygirl: I feel like I’m always spending too much time on my phone. How do I improve my relationship with my phone and scrolling?
[29:59] Payton Sartain’s career journey, and how she’s managed to maintain a following online for an entire decade through slow growth and authenticity
[44:19] How to navigate the transition from your 20s to your 30s, and what Payton learned about confidence throughout her early 20s
[48:28] How to be diagnosed with lucky girl syndrome, and why that mindset shift will change your life
[56:39] What does it mean to be in your “villain era,” and why do we all need to become more rightfully selfish in our everyday lives?
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